I was unsure whether or not to write or even share this post, but typing this up is my way of sharing how I found myself stressed and feeling low because of blogging and social media.
Recently, I have seen on Twitter that many bloggers are struggling on social media platforms like Instagram because of numbers and stats and this is having such a detrimental effect on people’s mental health. This is where I found myself and I lost my way a little with it all, which lead me to to take a break from blogging. I lost my confidence in sharing what I loved and honestly now that I’ve taken the time to reflect, I don’t know why I was so hard on myself. I have pushed aside all the negative factors of using social media. I’m working through my issues of comparing myself to others, not feeling good enough and instead I’m remembering why I first started blogging and the way it made me feel before it became about numbers etc. I have posted previously about the 6 Things I Do To Improve My Mental Health on a daily basis, which I find helps with any situation that effects me mentally.
June 2019 will be my 6th year of blogging with Beauty Baking Bella and it has overall been a great journey and I truly am proud of myself for still being here and sharing my writing on my little blog. I am so grateful for all the opportuinities I have had and eternally grateful to all those amazing PR’s I’ve had the pleasure to work with.
After all the years of blogging it finally got too much for me, which really negatively affected my mental health. I’ve always been one to doubt myself and my ability to do things. As a private person I have always been reluctant to share personal things on my social media, which is the opposite of what ‘successful bloggers’ do. It seems the more the you share, the more regularly you post and Insta Story, the more you grow and to be honest I can’t compete with that!
I have made some great online friends within the blogging community but even after all these years I still find myself anxious to socialise and stay social online. This is what made me take a step back, giving myself time to reflect on who I am as a blogger and what I wanted from blogging. I knew that I had to change the way I approached blogging and to remind myself what I started blogging for in the first place.
As a blogger some of the struggles I felt were:
All these factors sometimes had an effect on me and and made me feel like giving up.
As I write this I actually feel silly for even thinking this way let alone sharing this because why should I care about what anyone thinks? I always preach to others and say “as long as you love your content” or “share what makes you happy” when really I need to be saying this to myself!
I know as much as any blogger or influencer, the power of social media and how it is an essential part of being a successful blogger. But you can find yourself spending hours of your day sitting and liking and commenting on blog posts and instagram photos to engage with others because apparently that is how to grow as a blogger and get yourself out there!!
My goodness, how draining is it to do this day in and day out! Not only can it be draining and time consuming it can be really bring you down and that when it affects your mental health, you start doubting your own content and find yourself comparing to others and not feeling good enough. The anxiety kicks in and feeling like your not good enough because of others, what they are saying and what they are doing. I realised I shouldn’t be looking at them but need to look at myself and use that energy inwards. I struggled with social media because after all the effort I was putting in (because I had read it worked for other bloggers) and all those hours engaging with others just for the sake of engaging I didn’t see my following grow; so you wonder to yourself why do I even bother!!? (Now I’m laughing at myself for reading and listening to all those “how to grow your following posts” and wasting my time!)
This is when I knew I had to change my thought process and focus on me and my mental health! I had to find a way to clear my mind of all the negativity and find my own path again.
If you do follow me on social media thank you for sticking around 🙂. You may have noticed that I’m nowhere near as active as I used to be. I now look at Instagram once or maybe twice a day. I only upload photos when I want, sometimes going days without sharing new content and honestly, it’s the best thing I ever did! I don’t feel the pressure of needing a routine and this time allows me to focus on myself, my family and most importantly, my life away from social media.
We all seem to focus our lives around Social Media, when we go out, we think about what content we can shoot or what time we need to upload a photo to the gram. We seem to compare our lives to what we see on Instagram, which 99% of the time is all staged and edited to look like a dream world that we secretly long for. In reality we should be creating a realistic and happy life away from the false world seen on social media and loving and accepting our lives and the people in it. By focusing on yourself and real life you can decide for yourself what your dreams and ambitions are and follow them by doing you and achieving what you want and not what someone else has done on Instagram/Twitter!
So of course I had to do something about the way that I was feeling. So here is list of all the things I now do if I’m feeling any of the above because honestly, there is more to life than social media and statistics!
I do believe that a time out time from social media is the best thing for anyone and taking a break from time to time is a great way to regenerate. By doing so I’ve learnt to appreciate my own work and share what I love and love myself for turing the negativity of blogging and social media into a place where I can be happy again.
If you got this far then thank you for reading. I hope by sharing how I have felt with social media and my blog, I have been able to inspire and spread the positives of social media. Taking back control of our mental health when using social media and when blogging is the best thing you can do for yourself as a blogger.
If you are a blogger and have had your struggles, please let me know and share what steps you took to make your blogging journey a positive and safe place for you and your mental health.
Until next time,